by Diana Logan
”You’d think we’d have it figured out by now,” said my husband. The “it” he was referring to was world peace. after thousands of years coexisting on our small planet, the human species continues to be rife in warfare, dictators, poverty, racism and political dissonance. “civilization” indeed! Yet.. we expect our dogs to get along with each other, instantly, unconditionally, even if they are meeting for the first time. We may think something is wrong with them if they don’t make fast friends, if there's a growl or worse. perhaps, in a strange twist on anthropomorphism, we hope that our dogs can achieve something we humans have failed to do ourselves.
Happy dogs playing is a beautiful thing to witness. they share respect, understanding, and joy; it's a reciprocal giving and taking. Dog friendships can be long lasting and enhance our dogs’ overall well-being. When we introduce young puppies to a variety of dogs of all ages and attitudes, we help them navigate the subtleties of canine language, to hear and be heard without needing to resort to aggression; this information sets them up nicely for future interactions. after our dogs have matured into adolescence, they often become more selective about what dogs they are interested in befriending (sound familiar? think middle school!).
“50-60% of adult dogs are not interested in making new dog friends.” Several hundred professional dog trainers attending a lecture made this estimate at a dog training conference I attended. it was an informal survey but very telling. it means that, if they could speak, most adult dogs would say they have no interest in establishing or expanding their circle of doggie friends.
The bottom line is this: it’s okay. it’s okay if our adult dogs don’t like other dogs and aren’t appropriate for the dog park. We needn’t pressure them to love all other dogs or pressure ourselves into thinking we need to fix them.
This lack of friendliness can, however, get challenging and cause issues.